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Smart Ideas for Parent/Teacher Communication

Updated: Apr 3, 2023

There are more ways to communicate than ever, but we’re not necessarily getting better at it. While technology makes getting in touch easier and more instant, don’t push the send button just yet.

Can I "friend" my child's teacher?

The teacher-parent relationship should be friendly and professional. Communication should focus on your child’s school experience, not the teacher's or parent’s posts on social media. If you are already friends with your child’s teacher, press pause on your online interactions for the school year.

Follow the Teacher's Lead

Whether it's email, a class Facebook page, or an old-school handwritten note, your child's teacher will let you know the best ways to get in touch. Unless a teacher gives you their personal email account or phone number as a way to contact them about school matters, don't use them.

Be on time

Send permission slips, and school forms, and pay up on those lunch accounts promptly, sending out multiple reminders takes up teacher and staff time.

School Rules

What is the policy on cell phones in school? If they aren’t allowed. Don’t let your child take a phone to school. If cell phones are allowed, do not call or text your child during the day.

Email Etiquette

  • Is the email necessary? Is there another way to find out the information you need?

  • The subject line should communicate exactly what the email is about. Wondering about your student’s grade on a math quiz? A subject line with “Jack’s math grade” versus “OMG?!” is going to be more helpful.

  • Proofread. Spell Check. Capitalize.

  • Are you writing to ask for a phone call, an in-person meeting, or just to make the teacher aware of an issue? Be clear about why you are writing.

  • Be respectful, use the teacher’s name, and don’t make assumptions or accusations. Do not email when you are angry. Whether it takes 20 minutes or 2 days to calm down, wait it out.

  • Don’t automatically copy the principal on an email. If you’re dealing with a situation that warrants contacting the principal, it’s time for a phone call or face-to-face meeting.


Show respect by listening to what your child’s teacher has to say. Do not talk badly about teachers in front of your children...or anyone else.


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