Gift Giving Etiquette for Every Personality on Your List

Gift giving is personal. Once someone is an adult, it becomes less about checking off a wishlist and more about paying attention. When you know someone well enough to pick something they will actually enjoy, that is the real art gift giving. And while I try to stay humble, I am pretty darn good at it.

A quick etiquette note. Asking someone for a list can feel a little like saying, “I have not taken the time to notice what you might like.” If you are the selective one and know you prefer specific gifts, let someone close to you quietly share your list. It is far more thoughtful than sending it around yourself. And if you are wondering what to get me, my husband has been keeping track of a few things. He seems to enjoy that job.

Here are the personalities you might be buying for this year, along with a few ideas based on people I know and love.

The Practical Person

I enjoy a practical gift that still feels special. The no-nonsense people on your list appreciate things they will actually use. My closest friends are all made-from-scratch cooks. They would appreciate a gourmet set of spices from a local shop. They love high quality basics and will put every drop to good use.

More ideas

• A well-made kitchen tool that replaces something worn out

• A magnetic notepad for listmaking

• A set of nice dish towels

  
  

The Predictable Person

This is the easiest person to shop for. I have someone on my list who adores a specific jewelry brand. All I have to do is make sure it comes in the store packaging she loves, and she is thrilled. Another person gets the next book in a favorite series. Predictable is not boring. It is reliable.

More ideas

• Their favorite candle, but in a scent they have not tried

• A restock of a beauty or skincare product they always buy

• A cookbook from their favorite chef

  
  

The Minimalist

This group is growing. While some of us love to be extra, minimalists prefer simple, useful, and often eco-friendly gifts. Think upgraded olive oil, a beautiful soap, or something consumable they can enjoy without adding clutter.

More ideas

• A fun tote bag that replaces plastic

• A box of really good tea

• A beautifully wrapped loaf of artisan bread

The Person Who Has Everything

Experiences shine here. Think memberships, subscriptions, or something that adds ease or joy to daily life. One of my favorites is my New York Times Games subscription. It is simple and delightful.

More ideas

• Nice bottle of wine or craft beverage

• A class that teaches something fun

• Car detailing gift card

  
  

The Sentimentalist

This person treasures the story behind the gift. They are the ones who would love a framed family recipe or even a small family heirloom wrapped with a note. Meaning matters most to this type.

More ideas

• Custom ornament with a family photo

• Digital frame

• A piece of jewelry with initials or a date

The Hard-to-Read Person

We all have one. The colleague, the neighbor, or a new person in your friend circle. Safe choices can still be special. A luxury candle, a puzzle, or something handmade feels thoughtful but not overly personal.

More ideas

• Small charcuterie board with gourmet snacks

• Coffee shop gift card

• Seasonal wreath or door hanging

The Hobbyist

I have a golfer on my list. Golfers are picky about their brands, so instead of clubs or gear, I might gift them a round at a course they love. Consider giving them a new way to enjoy their hobby rather than trying to outguess their preferences.

More ideas

• Magazine subscription related to their hobby

• Gift certificate to their favorite local shop connected to their hobby

• A storage system that keeps their tools or supplies organized

  
  

The Experience Lover

Many people are trying to simplify and collect memories. This group loves tickets to a show, a class at a local studio, a cooking workshop, or anything that gets them out enjoying something new.

More ideas

• Day trip itinerary curated by you

• Picnic kit 

• Seasonal pass to a local attraction

  
  

Gift giving does not have to feel intimidating. When you know the person you are buying for, even a small gift becomes meaningful. And if you pay attention all year, your shopping becomes less guesswork and more joy.